When Survival
runs the show
Desire goes quiet
And biochemical poverty becomes your baseline
This Book is For You If…
✨ You want to understand why you keep saying yes when you mean no and how that reflex was built into your body long before you could choose.
✨ You’re tired of confusing self-control with self-respect. You want to feel what real boundaries feel like from the inside out.
✨ You want to see how emotional neglect shaped your chemistry… Why you crave approval, why you crash when you don’t get it, and how to rewire that loop.
✨ You’re done calling overfunctioning “strength.” You want connection that doesn’t drain you.
✨ You’re ready to stop abandoning yourself to stay loved and start belonging to yourself instead.
Let's begin
The Cost of Abandonment is about learning the mechanics of neglect. How love deprivation rewires your chemistry, your nervous system until exhaustion starts to feel like safety.
This workbook gives you the biology lesson you didn’t know you Really needed and helps you start rebuilding safety and desire from the inside out.
If you pre-order the workbook from Camilla, the author, you’ll get it signed and dedicated to you as soon it goes into print in February 2026 ❤️
What You'll Explore
✨ How long-term self-neglect leads to biochemical poverty
✨ The role of neurotransmitters (like serotonin and dopamine) in emotional regulation
✨ Why things that should feel good often don’t anymore
✨ How imagination, micro-pleasure, and symbolic rituals begin to reset your system
✨ What it means to nourish yourself back online
This is science, yes. But it’s also sacred.
It’s where the biology of neglect meets the art of nourishment.
Where you learn how love deprivation shapes your chemistry and how to feed yourself connection from the inside out.
Where neuroscience explains the ache, and presence becomes the medicine.
A Note from the Author
This book isn’t here to fix you.
It’s here to show you how neglect affects your biochemistry, how overgiving rewires your body for survival and makes exhaustion feel normal.
You’ll learn the mechanics of self-abandonment and how to start feeding yourself safety, warmth, and connection without waiting for anyone else to offer it first.
It’s not a love story.
It’s a return to your own body. The place real love begins.
Camilla
Format & Experience
✨ Full-color, soft matte cover
✨ 480 pages of theory, guided writing, stories, somatic exercises and excursions into your imaginal field
✨Large format, 8″x10″, for comfortable writing experience so you have plenty of space to journal, doodle in the margins and reflect
✨36 somatic shadow work prompts that help you anchor theory with feeling and sensation.
✨ 9 audio-guided body exercises accessed via QR code in the book hosted on a course platform
✨ 9 audio-guided imaginal journeys deep into your mind to your archetypes accessed via QR code in the book hosted on a course platform
What's
inside
Each chapter follows a rhythm built to bring you closer to yourself even if you’re juggling work, kids, or life on low battery.
You start each chapter by reading: short pieces of story and science that help you reframe the past and understand why you’ve been living the way you have.
Then you write: guided prompts that let you translate insight into honesty and start re-inhabiting the present.
Then you sense: Every chapter includes a audioguided Body Check to experience what you’ve just explored in your body noticing breath, tension, heartbeat, the way truth actually feels in the flesh.
Then you feel it: Each chapter ends with an audio guided Imaginal Journey that allows you to explore your inner world using imagination to dialogue with the parts of you that logic can’t reach.
It’s where the mind learns to feel, and the body learns to trust.
Nine chapters.
Nine rounds of reconnection through story, movement, and imagination.
This is how you reframe the past, re-inhabit the present, and come home to your sensual self.
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